Sex ​

Sex for over 30 & HLCommunity are fun subs to read. David Buss's interview on Sex, Dating, Relationships, and Sex Differences was fascinating.

Come as You Are & She Comes First are great books. Together with this thread.

SKYN Ultra Thin are least bad condoms I found. It's best to get tested though and use other birth controls like NuvaRing or copper UID once you find a stable partner. Or get a vasectomy once you're certain you don't want any more kids.

Notes ​

• Don't have PIV sex immediately as it can be painful and unpleasant. Foreplay is important. Be gentle. Can give her an orgasm without any PIV involved easily.
• Going off birth control often increases sex drive. But increases chances of conception dramatically.
• There is no such thing as vaginal orgasm, only clitoral.
• Это всё ещё клиторальный оргазм. Просто изнутри влагалища стимулируются ножки и луковицы клитора.
• У женщин есть один вид оргазма, все. Все остальное — способы стимуляции. Понимание этого помогает ответить на вопрос «а что с этой штукой делать?» и уменьшает вероятность появления странных мифов.
• Female birth control often has negative side effects on the body. Ideally research into male contraception that's not just condoms/vasectomy. IUD seems like the best least problematic contraceptive method.
• Take foreplay slower. It can happen early on and at any part of the day through compliments or light touches. The key to having a nice sexual experience is when everyone is fully relaxed, nothing is rushed and everything feels natural and not forced. Communicate everything.
• Women's desire usually drives from a story being played out.
• Skyn have the best condoms
• Always satisfy your partner first before finishing yourself.
• You don’t have to deposit to a sperm bank for IVF. If a person wanted to do IVF after a vasectomy they can extract the sperm from your testicles and do it that way.
• Move sideways, not up and down
• Prone bone or missionary with a pillow are top positions that can hit the g spot
• Always use condoms before both been tested for STD's and both sides are aware of the pregnancy risks and willing to take them (if that happens) or use female contraception consistently.
• When you orgasm, make sure she knows it, either vocally (moans, heavy breaths, etc) or physically (ie: your whole body clenches up and you drive in as deep as you can, kinda obvious). The point is to make sure she knows how great she's making you feel.
• Plan B is only good for 72 hours after the incident and will not work if you are ovulating.
• There are substantial STI concerns associated with unprotected oral, aside from HSV1. You can also get gonorrhea, chlamydia, or syphilis via oral sex. Even worse, drug-resistant gonorrhea is now a thing. Condoms can make all sex acts (oral, anal, PIV) feel worse, but it doesn't need to be terrible. You (and everyone in here who's bashing condoms) should invest in finding a condom that fits properly, feels good, and has minimal odor/flavor. The most straightforward way to do this is to buy Skyn Elite condoms in both regular size and large size (the latter - Skyn Elite Large - is easiest to find online). Skyn condoms are made from synthetic latex, which has minimal odor/flavor. The "Elite" version is thinner, which feels better. And I recommend the large size because the standard condom size (in the US) is too tight for even the average erection, often causing discomfort and loss of erection. Let that sink in: the average guy can safely wear a large condom, improving sensation and performance. You - and everyone with a dick - should buy a few condoms and figure out what works best. It will mostly change your perspective at least somewhat.
• Can keep NSFW videos/photos in iOS Photos hidden folder as its password protected.
• Urinate between ejaculations to clear your urethra (failure to do this may result in sperm being active within your precum). Even with urination between ejaculation, approximately half of men simply have spermatozoa present in their precum. If you are one of these men, no matter how careful you are, you still have anywhere between a .5% to 2.5% of impregnating a woman who is ovulating.

Links ​

• Dipsea - Sexy audio stories that set the mood and spark your imagination.
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• Why Sex? Biologists Find New Explanations (HN)
• OnlyFans, Influencers, And The Politics Of Selling Nudes During A Pandemic (2020) (HN)
• HN: Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows (2020)
• Miley Cyrus - Call Her Daddy Interview (2020)
• The ungentle joy of spider sex (2020) (HN)
• Sexual Health Wiki
• Sex Over 30 Wiki
• Porn Really Screwed My Perception of Sex (2021)
• Extraordinary Passion - The Art and Science of Modern Tantric Sex. (Welcome Post)
• Better Sex 101
• The Dirty Normal - Better sex. Powered by science.
• Coral - Better sex through a mix of science, stories and exercises.
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• Sex as a means for validation vs. Sex as way towards intimacy (2021)
• Women's loss of desire and the pleasure gap (2021)
• Women who found it difficult to orgasm during sex but “worked it out”, what’s your trick? (2021)
• New partner. How to get the most pleasure from his shape/size of penis?
• A Beginner's Guide to Good, Great, and Amazing Sex
• Fascinating G-Spot Orgasm Thread
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• Best lube for sensitive genitals (2021)
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• Women's Anatomy Of Arousal Book
• Good resources on learning the pleasures of sex (2021)
• Mirena appreciation post (2021)
• What makes sex with a guy go from good to mind blowing? (2021)
• On Incels, Dead Bedrooms and the Hard Problems of Loneliness (2021) (HN)
• Movies with lots of sexual energy? (2021)
• The macho sperm myth - Idea that millions of sperm are on an Olympian race to reach the egg is yet another male fantasy of human reproduction.
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• Things I can do to make sex go from great to mind-blowing? (2021)
• Swingers Reddit Wiki
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• Whats your signature move your ex probably still fantasizes about? (2021)
• Alan Watts - On Sexuality
• Что нужно знать о сексе с женщинами
• HEX Condoms (Reddit)
• What are things that woman find sexy that men rarely do?
• Is G-spot actually just an internal part of clitoris?
• Exploring Queerness By Switching Up My Vibrators (2021)
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• Scarleteen - Sex Education For The Real World.
• How do girls cum?
• Tips on fingering (2021)
• Movies with lots of sex but they are actually good (2021)
• The Mating Strategies of Earthlings (2021)
• Arousing TV series/how-tos? (No porn)
• Список интимных товаров
• Overly analytical guide to escorting (2021) (HN)
• What advice have you gotten that has changed your sex life? (2021)
• Hamilton Morris: The Relationship Between Sex and Psychedelics
• What is the biggest reason people are having so little sex?
• Ringing The Devil’s Doorbell: A Light-Hearted, Practical Guide (2021)
• Prostitute interview - Exotic (2021)
• ТРЕД про внутриматочную спираль, экстренную контрацепцию, мини-пили, НоваРинг и Implanon NXT (Reddit)
• Power imbalances and sex (2016) (HN)
• What sexual bucket list item lived up to expectations?
• One thing you learned about relationships/sex you wish you knew sooner
• What are your best "Sexual Mechanics" tricks?
• Stronger orgasm resources
• Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski (2015)
• What is your trick of giving the best head to your gf?
• Anatomy Structure and Function of the Male Genitals
• What are some sexual things you would recommend people try?
• HLCommunity Reddit
• The Internal Clitoris (Reddit)
• Sex positive resources for adult male
• Choosy Eggs May Pick Sperm for Their Genes, Defying Mendel’s Law
• MojoUpgrade - Quiz is designed to help you - as a couple - communicate better about your intimate fantasies.
• Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex? (HN)
• What is the appeal in being choked during sex?
• 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do
• Sex Work: Last Week Tonight with John Oliver (HBO) (2022)
• Contraceptive pill for males is 99% effective in preventing pregnancy (2022) (HN)
• Vaginal Orgasms
• One thing that changed your sex life forever?
• Mr Lucky POV - Austen Summers Podcast (2021)
• David Buss: Sex, Dating, Relationships, and Sex Differences (2022)
• The Evolution Of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating by David Buss
• How your phone documents your abortion experience
• Andrew Huberman explains sex to Lex Fridman
• Giving girls orgasm with just PIV
• Men of Reddit, what’s something most guys like during sex but don’t want to admit?
• Various condoms thread
• The Fascinating Fertilization Process
• Men with vasectomy! How did it effect your sex life? (2022)
• Sex is going out of fashion? (HN)
• Tips to eat her out
• Is sex with a condom really that bad?
• Why are sex workers forced to wear a financial scarlet letter? (2022) (HN)
• Birth Control Methods & Options (Reddit)
• “Exotic” sex positions are actually worth the effort
• Men who have had a vasectomy, what's different now?
• This startup wants to reimagine egg donation (Tweet)
• How in vitro fertilization (IVF) works
• Vasectomy Reversal vs Frozen - Feedback
• Ideas on foreplay hours before sex
• Vasectomies Wiki
• Why, in the last two centuries, have women become to be considered less sexual than men, if, throughout history, they were believed to have a much higher libido?
• The guide on how to give girls great oral sex
• Top sex positions for women's orgasms
• Recommendations for "Books About Sex" + Erotica (2022)
• Positions to hit the g spot
• Sex Positions - AskMen
• Some thoughts on sex and intimacy
• At what point do you stop wearing condoms?
• What's something that's not supposed to be sexual that turns you on?
• NuvaRing - Small, flexible vaginal ring used to prevent pregnancy. (Review)
• Birth Control Reddit
• О контрацепции с гинекологом Кариной Бондаренко (2021)
• FC2 Female Condom
• What are some cunnilingus tips every guy should know? (2022)
• Temporal trends in sperm count (2022) (Tweet)
• У кого какие эрогенные зоны?
• What are your favorite movies where sex is integral to the plot? (2022)
• IUD is great contraception but painful to insert
• Top 5 sex toys (2022)
• Natality: Toward a Philosophy of Birth
• How do I stay STD safe?
• Pompoir (Reddit)
• You Are This Likely To Get An STD
• Books for couples not having problems (2022)
• What have you done to spice up your sex life in long term relationship
• Difference between clit and vagina orgasms
• Keeping sex in the air with responsive desire
• Great sex positions (2023)
• Non hormonal birth control options
• What are the chances of getting Herpes?
• Advice on post divorce 38M
• Как делать кунилингус
• Women, what things made your best sex partner your best sex partner? (2023)
• Aella: Sex Work, OnlyFans, Porn, Escorting, Dating, and Human Sexuality (2023)
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• Non hormonal birth control options (2023)
• Вирус папилломы человека: почему важно о нём знать (2021)
• What‘s your holy grail sex tip?
• What is the most underrated sex tip everyone should know?
• Dr. Rena Malik: Improving Sexual & Urological Health in Males and Females (2023)